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What Is Within You Is What You Speak 

 “From the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” Whatever is in our hearts, that is what we are going to express. There is a direct connection between what I say and what is in my heart. What I say is linked to what I have within me. However, there is something we need to understand: since what I say is a result of what is in my heart, I need to start saying things that can change what is within me. What is in my heart comes out in the words I say, and what I say also directly affects or changes what is within me.

You reap what you sow with your words. Words are like seeds; they can be seeds of life or seeds of death. That is why Proverbs 18:20 says, “From the fruit of their mouth a person’s stomach is filled; with the harvest of their lips they are satisfied.” What do I have to do? I need to start saying positive things knowingly, intentionally, so that my words can build a new reality within me. 

I am made of the words I speak. Talk to a person and you will know what is inside of them. It is like a vicious cycle. I speak from what is within me, and what is within me is filled by what I speak. When I am trapped in a bad cycle of negative words, I need to break that cycle by stopping all the negative talk. Then, I need to start speaking words of life, words that can build a positive reality in my marriage. The course of your life is being outlined by the words you speak; what you say determines where you are going.

In many ways, we have been limited by the words we have allowed to enter our hearts and minds. Many of those words have hindered our abilities. In the same way, what we say when we talk to our spouse has an effect on their lives. The words I say to them will cause either belief or disbelief. If I tell them, “You are such a hypocrite! You go to church, but what kind of a Christian are you?”, this will have a negative effect on them. Those words go against everything God says. They generate a reality of unbelief and go against God’s purpose.

 

Reflect

 What are the effects of my words on my spouse? What are the words that can build my spouse up? What is within me that comes out of my mouth? Are my words aligned with what God says about me?

I pray for every negative cycle in your life to be broken.