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The Power Of Well–Spoken Words 

Everything I say creates a reality in my environment. If I go to the office and see a group of people working, and I tell them that they do not look ok, that they seem ill and sad, and then I ask them what is wrong with them, the words I said can generate a negative atmosphere in their lives. However, if I tell them: “Hey, you guys look great today, what happened?”, they might ask, “Really? I look great?” They start to feel good about themselves. They start to look happy!



We need to speak words that are good for building people up and for establishing them—words that can add something good to their lives. We should understand that our words have the power to build realities. The Scriptures say that God works by calling things which are not as though they were, because He knows that there is creative power in His words. He knows that when He speaks, nonexistent things begin to exist. For this reason, when He talks about us, He calls us holy, blameless, and perfect. Everything He says about us in Christ is positive and He makes sure we know that. He calls things which are not as though they were because there lies His creative power.

Just as the Word of God has power, so do our words. They have the power to generate an atmosphere in our environment and in that of the people around us. Our words can cause one of two things: they can create something good and positive, or they can destroy and corrupt it. What we allow our mouths to speak will create a reality.

If you say to your spouse, “I do not love you anymore,” even if that is not true, what you are saying will produce something in you. If you say something negative, it will create a negative reality. Never say things that go against what God says about your spouse. If God calls them perfect, holy, and blameless, do not go against what God says. Affirm what God says about your spouse! If God says so, I believe it and I declare it with my mouth! That will create a new reality. I say “Yes!” and “Amen!” to the Word of God by affirming what He says about me and my spouse.

Reflect

What are the words that come out of my mouth when I get home and see my spouse? What kind of environment am I encouraging? Are my words building them up? Am I bringing destruction? Do you talk more about getting divorced than staying together? Do you talk to your spouse about the wonderful life you have together? Do you think and say that all husbands, or all wives, are the same? Or are you declaring that your spouse is a holy and loving child of God?

I pray that your words affirm and declare what God says about you and your spouse.