Embracing the Gift of Sex in Marriage: Looking Through a Biblical Lens Part 1Sample

This is probably the overall most popular passage for weddings. It gives us a great standard to strive for in our marriage. It covers what we are to do and what we are not to do. We are to be patient and kind. We are not to be self-seeking or easily angered. We are to protect and trust while not being proud or boastful. The directive in this verse plays a huge part in building intimacy in our marriage. It is not about sex but about intimacy.

Often I hear couples use the words “intimacy” and “sex” interchangeably. The problem is that intimacy and sex are not the same thing. Intimacy can certainly lead to sex, but it can stand on its own as something that draws a couple closer together.

Communication can be intimate. Praying together can be intimate. Experiencing something special between the two of you can be intimate. Treating each other gently can be intimate. Marriage is the relationship designed to give people the opportunity to be as close as two people can be. Over the course of a marriage, intimacy is designed to build and grow. A couple’s care for each other grows as they grow increasingly closer to each other.

There are many types of intimacy, but let’s look at a couple that I feel are essential to a marriage.

1. Emotional intimacy grows as we are comfortable with each other and when we tear down any walls between us. It is being best friends at the deepest level. It is Adam and Eve when the Bible describes them as “naked and unashamed.”
2. Spiritual intimacy, in my opinion, is the most important of all the types. It is the essence of intimacy. It connects a couple with each other and to the Creator of the Universe. It does not get any better than that!

Look back at the description of love in today’s verses. Are you living these traits out in your marriage? Is there anything hindering your emotional and/or spiritual intimacy in your marriage? Identify that together, and ask God’s help in building these into your marriage.

Today’s Challenge:

Take time to talk about what each of you would like these two areas of intimacy to look like in your marriage. Now make your game plan. What will each of you do? Be specific and then begin to follow through.

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