To Those Losing a Loved One: The Gradual GoodbyeSample

Surprise waves of grief will overtake us. Let it flow.

Even if it was a dysfunctional or imperfect relationship (most are) we still grieve.

We don't realize how much grief is pent up in our gut until we get alone and let it out. We need to wail. Often.

Comfort is not the removal of pain, but it is knowing that with the Lord everything is going to be all right.

We grieve all over again with each new downward change.

It’s okay for our loved one to see our tears.

Celebrate the moments of hope, like realizing in heaven they will no longer need pain meds, wheelchairs, or doctors!

Balance deep emotional releases (weeping and wailing) with breaks such as being busy (cleaning out closets, paying bills, etc.) There is a time for both.

There are two kinds of sorrow: those who have no hope, and those of us who do. 

It’s okay for us to let go.